Parents you don't like

1 votes

My son has a couple of friends who have parents I don't particulalry like.  For some reason, these are the folks who seek me out to invite me to the movies, shopping, etc.  I don't want to go but I don't want to damage my child's friendship with these boys.  Ironically, the parents of his friends who I *do* like aren't interested in being friends with me.  My son is 5 and still doesn't want to do drop-off playdates so I hang out at his playmate's house during the playdate.  How can I say "no" without making it awkward when I am there?
Lena

Sacramento, CA

May 31, 2010

2 Answers

  • 1 votes

    I assume you're talking about other parents inviting just you to additional activities?

    If so, that's a tough one because I can understand not wanting to damage the friendship between your child and the other parents' kids. My best suggestion is to politely decline the solo invites but also suggest get-togethers that involve everybody (parents and kids). That way you're kind of keeping the overall relationship about the kids, not just hanging out as adults because you're buddies.

     
    Jason K.

    Kids make, kids break. Gotta have both.
    Silicon Valley

    Jun 2, 2010

  • 1 votes

    I'm right there with you! Sounds like all the worst parts of dating, plus you need to consider your son's feelings too!

    For avoiding people, I tell them (honestly) that I'm busy. I really feel I don't have time for all the people (my self included) who matter in my life right now, plus getting things done, and so I don't have time to spare for people I don't want to get to know better.

    I wonder if you might also give your son a choice - he can play away from home without you or he might not get to play with his friend (or, if you're willing, only at your house)? Too tough? Is this friendship critical?

    Anonymous

    Jun 2, 2010



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