Which is more important for your child... happily married parents, or having a brother or sister?
Yes, I do realize you can have both, but let's pretend that's not an option. :)
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There are so many layers to this question that I wouldnt touch with a ten-foot umbrella stroller.....
But if the main reason for considering another kid is thinking that its necessary for the development of your current child, then that's probably not a great reason to come up with a second kid yet.
I've heard from some parents that going from one to two kids is not hard, its going from two to three that really bites. That said, it's not like you can go back once you've gotten that experience, so its under the category of totally useless advice.....
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All things being equal, having happily married parents is far, far more important.
Having said that I think this is kind of a false dilemma. If you actually think that having a second kid is going to destroy your marriage then you need to work on your marriage first, and worry about whether it's a benefit or not for your only child to have a sibling later -- for now it is an irrelevant point.
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Assuming you don't already have a second kid and are comtenplating putting him/her up for adoption (which would probably mess with the mind of the first kid a little bit :-), I would say happily married parents.
The question was actually about whether having a 2nd kid would drive the parents crazy versus the benefit for the first kid... But yeah, once the kid is conceived, this becomes an abortion/adoption question, and I don't really want to go there. :)
- Steve Lacy, Jul 13, 2010