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Your proposal seems unfair to me. She would get them Monday after school, Tuesday after school, and Wednesday after school and you would get them Thursday after school, Friday after school, all day Saturday and all day Sunday.
The people I know who have done this best with kids as young as yours mostly do what your wife proposed. Dad either picks up kids from school Friday or from Mom's house Friday night or from Mom's house Saturday morning and then she picks them up from your house Sunday night. That way they feel they have a primary place and still have regular contact with you. If you can't stand the thought of being away from them for 5 days, you could also take them to dinner Wednesday nights.
It also seems like the arrangements change as kids get older. They might ask to switch just once a week or even every 2 weeks or every 3 weeks.
Keep in mind that kids often have a bunch of stuff going on on the weekends. It might be playdates or soccer games or languages classes or birthday parties. If you or she move away, it is tough on them to miss so much with their friends. If you both stay local, you might need to divide and conquer to get each kid where s/he needs to go without needlessly schlepping the other along.
Sorry about your divorce. I hope things continue to be amicable between you and your (probably now) ex.
